'Family' is a single word, with many different meanings. People have
many ways of defining a family and what being a part of a family means
to them. Families differ in terms of economic, cultural, social, and
many other facets, but what every family has in common is that the
people who call it a family are making clear that those people are
important in some way to the person calling them his family.
Definition of Family
The dictionary defines
family in several ways. One definition is "a fundamental social group
in society typically consisting of one or two parents and their
children." While this definition is a good starting point, there are
several modern family structures that are excluded by this definition,
such as childless couples or other variations on the family unit.
Another definition is "Two or more people who share goals and values,
have long-term commitments to one another and reside usually in the same
dwelling." This definition encompasses the vast majority of modern
family units; for the purposes of this article, the second definition
will be used.
Who Makes a Family?
The traditional family consists of a father, mother and children.
This is the family shown on television as the standard family. However,
the 21st century showcases a variety of family units, some very
different from the standard of the 1950s. Today, children are also often
raised in single parent homes, by grandparents or by homosexual
parents. Some families opt to have no children, or cannot have children
due to some medical or emotional barrier. The idea that parents and
children make a family is a basic definition; however, in order to
accurately acknowledge other family structures, a broader definition is
necessary. In addition to a more universal family definition, there are
also plenty of people who consider a group of friends to be family, and
adults who consider pets as defining members of the family unit.
Friends as Family
Many people consider friends to be as close or even closer than
extended (or immediate) family. People who have lost close family
members may create a family unit of friends with similar interests and
goals to become replacements or enhancements to a lacking family
structure. This type of family unit, while untraditional, can be just as
close, if not closer, than a traditional structure. Friends are chosen
by an individual; at times, these people may be more special or
important than the family a person was born with. In addition, some
people who have supportive families also have an extensive network of
friends who they consider to be a second family or as additions to their
blood or legal relatives.
Pets as Family
Pets can also become members of a family unit. Pets add an element of
responsibility to a family, particularly for children. For couples who
cannot, or choose not to, have children, pets can be a replacement and
be loved as dearly as children. Pets, such as dogs and cats, are cared
for as additional family members by many people and are mourned as such
as well when they pass away.
Redefining Family
Rather than simply defining family by a dictionary definition, each
individual should look to define a family by his own standards,
enriching the dictionary's definition. You can have several families in
your lifetime, even several families at once if you choose. Regardless
of how you choose to define your family unit, whether it is traditional
or unique, your definition is of the family unit that works for you. As
the saying goes, "Family is what you make it." Whether made of blood
relatives, friends, or pets, or a combination of these, your family can
offer you the support you need to thrive.
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